In my previous reflections on The Love of a Father, I shared how my two-year-old daughter, Olivia, taught me a profound lesson when she called out, “Look at me, Daddy.” This simple yet powerful moment reminded me of our innate need for validation and how our Heavenly Father alone can truly satisfy that need. It is hard to believe, but seven years have now passed since my last ruminaitons on this series. Today, on Father’s Day, I want to explore another vital aspect of a father’s love—correction and accountability.

As a father of two beautiful daughters, Payton and Olivia, I am intentional about teaching them responsibility for their actions and the importance of godly character. In a world that often defers responsibility and blames others, I am determined to raise my children with integrity and strength of character.

From a young age, children need to understand the consequences of their actions. This lesson is not just about discipline but about instilling a sense of accountability that will serve them throughout their lives. Proverbs 22:6 says:

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Training involves correction, guidance, and sometimes tough love. It’s not always easy, but it is necessary. I’ve found that loving my children means being willing to correct them when they are wrong, even when it’s uncomfortable. It means teaching them that their actions have consequences and that they must own up to their mistakes.

In our household, we emphasize the importance of apologizing and making amends. When Payton or Olivia misbehaves, we discuss what went wrong and why it was wrong. We talk about how their actions affected others and how they can make it right. This practice not only helps them understand responsibility but also cultivates empathy and compassion.

We live in a culture that often values talent and success above character. Yet, as Christians, we are called to a higher standard. The Bible is clear about the importance of godly character. Romans 5:3-4 says:

“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.”

True character is forged in the crucible of life’s challenges and is more valuable than any talent. I want my daughters to understand that no matter how gifted or successful they may become, it is their integrity and character that will truly define them.

In our home, we emphasize honesty, even when it’s difficult. We value kindness and respect, both to ourselves and to others. We encourage our girls to stand up for what is right, even when it’s unpopular.

Godly character is about responding to the world not with what it gives us, but with what God has placed within us. It is about being a light in the darkness and standing firm in our values, no matter the circumstances.

My daughters must understand that their worth is not measured by the accolades they receive or their talents but by their character. As their father, I am responsible for guiding, correcting, and holding them accountable. This is not always an easy task, but it is one that I embrace with all my heart.

God’s love for us includes correction. Hebrews 12:6 reminds us:

“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.”

If our Heavenly Father disciplines us out of love, how much more should we, as earthly fathers, do the same for our children? Correction is not a sign of harshness but of deep, abiding love. It is a commitment to our children’s future, their character, and their walk with God.

I am constantly learning and growing as a father. My daughters teach me new lessons every day, and I strive to be the best example I can be for them. The love of a father is multifaceted—encompassing joy, sacrifice, validation, and correction. It is a journey of guiding our children towards becoming the people God created them to be.

As I continue this journey, I pray for wisdom and strength to lead my daughters with love and integrity. I pray that they will grow to understand the importance of godly character and the value of taking responsibility for their actions. Most importantly, I pray that they will always feel the love of their Heavenly Father, who guides and corrects us with His infinite wisdom.

Thank you for joining me in this reflection. May the Lord bless and keep you in His love and mercy as we strive to raise our children in His ways.